Dave H. Recovery—The Blog
Dave H. turned three decades of recovery into a book, a podcast, and this blog for family members of people with addiction. The Practice of Imperfection offers practical Al‑Anon‑based tools, essays, and workshops. Take what helps and leave the rest.
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No Is A Complete Sentence
You don't have to explain yourself. You don't have to soften it with a long story about why you're busy. You have the right to say no. No is a complete sentence.
Trying To Get The Perfect Snapshot
We're so busy looking at snapshots that we're missing the live stream called our own life, already in progress.
You're Exhausted — And That Makes Sense
The monitoring, the anticipating, the bracing for the next thing — all of it adds up. Here's what most people don't realize: this exhaustion shows up no matter what.
Your Attention Has Been On Them Long Enough
You've become an expert in reading the signs. You know what that tone of voice means. You can tell from the way they walked in the door whether tonight will be okay or terrible.
What Happened When Nobody Rescued Me
When I finally stopped being rescued, I learned how to pay bills. I learned how to stay sober. I learned how to live. None of that would have happened if someone had kept stepping in.
I've Seen Addiction From Every Side
My recovery has to happen regardless of whether they choose theirs. Your serenity doesn't require their sobriety.